Today we had an event in our company and one of the game was like a hazy picture was given to us. We were supposed to make a meaningful story out of it. The picture we got and the story we articulated intrigued me to write this Blog as I really want to convey the message to maximum possible people. If you like this story, please pass it to others and if you like the message in it please cultivate in your life.
Story: Empower the Needful
There was a truck driver called Bahadursinh making his living by driving truck on contract basis. He lives in a very small village of Punjab. In his family, he has a sick mother; a young sister for whom he needs to arrange dowry; a widow sister with two small kids studying in primary and secondary schools. Bahadursinh always face shortage of money so each contract makes a big difference in his life.
As part of the contract, he was supposed to fetch a consignment from Ahmedabad. He was late and the shipment manager was angry on him. He asked him if he won't reach in 10 minutes, the consignment will be given to another driver. He had to pay the fees of his nephew and buy medicine for her mother so he had to get this consignment. But, he wasn't able to locate the address.
He went to a tea stall where a few people were standing and asked the address. One of them suggested to go straight and then take left.
Suddenly, a man next to him said, “No, that's a long way. Take a right and get onto highway, then take left. It will make you reach quickly”.
The 1st man said, “No, there will be traffic. It will make him late. Go straight and take left.”
The 2nd man said, “There can't be traffic at this time. Go in the direction I verbalized.”
Both of them started arguing and explaining how and why their suggested path is right. In between a few more people joined the herd. Some thought a quarrel happening and some thought might be an accident. More and more people started gathering. Different people with different judgments which led them to start asking like what happened and other people explaining them which was distracting whole conversation agenda. Even people started giving him different directions which made him more confused.
From somewhere a lady came, get the whole scenario and asked that truck driver to come behind me as I am going the same way. He went behind her and reached his destiny.
Crux:
Instead of fighting on proving that the direction they are suggesting, one of them could have given up so at least Bahadursinh could start moving towards his destination. They both wanted him to reach his destination, so they could have come on some common suggestion. Bahadur himself could have been reactive to gauge which one of them sounds more credible and follow his direction with an instinct or he could have left both of them and move to ask some other wise man instead of wasting his precious time in listening the useless arguments.
Lessons from the story:
- Instead of proving ourselves right, we should contribute in creating the situation right for the person who need our suggestions. It's not about you, it's about him and his betterment
- Sometimes just to prove ourselves right, even if we want to do something good for someone, we do opposite and worsen the situation for him. So better to leave our selfish egoist side aside and get to a common ground or just give up by letting the next person win so at least the guy can move on towards his destiny.
- Don't be judgmental to satisfy your curiosity. Make sure to help the one or leave or just be quiet until the Needful get the solution so someone wants to help can help. Don't distract those who are trying to help.
- Lead by action. Not by words
- When too many suggestions are coming, be wise enough to quickly decide which one to follow. If you can't decide, leave the place find help somewhere else instead of wasting your time staying stealth.
Now, Ananya has stopped resisting herself meeting new people. She set herself free. Still, scared to get hurt, but not refraining herself as much as earlier. She also realized if someone is being nice, he is being nice, and not emotionally attached to you. Accept the moment and don't think what you will have in future. Moon added colors in the black and white life of Ananya. Ananya now have a lot of respect for moon and care for him even more than earlier. However, the equations between both of them is changed drastically so she is not showing it. It's not at all as it was before. But, again staying close is not everything, staying available when needed is something important. The best thing is to conserve what is left and make it the best!
When she was passing through the hallway, she was recalling her last few years, which made her feel that people are there just for a purpose and once the purpose is over, they will leave. Nobody will stay together forever. Even worst, the people you love the most would hurt you the most. After getting used so many times, after getting treated as a time pass, she has determined to be alone and strong this time. She has decided to focus on studies, stay busy and aloof, and don't allow anyone to enter into the life this time.
except Ananya was damn excited. She was there just to finish her role at her best. However, this was something related to art and she is good in logic and reasoning so she was sitting in a corner and letting her teammates give their best. Suddenly, a voice interrupted her lonely time. “Why aren't you joining us there?”
