Talks Fest

Wednesday, 19 March 2014

How to Get The Information Out?

One of the million dollar question how to get the information out of someone? How to read somebody's mind? This question arises in anyone's life. We might want to get the information of some vital assignment or if you are in love, you might want to know does that person really like you or not? etc. We all are trying to find the key of it. So I have brought the key of it for you.

First the disclaimer, This is not a foolproof method, but it will work in 90 to 99% scenarios. There is one very effective saying of very effective personality, "Ash Vyas" that "There is a right key to everyone's heart, we just need to find it". :) So this one is the master key for the majority of scenarios with the majority of people.

So what is the key? The key is "To Oppose". Yes, the key is, get the next person in defense mode by constantly opposing him. When the person comes into the defense position, he will give all the information & evidences needed to prove you were wrong and himself right.

This formula work in all situations like if you want to take a survey about something, just raise the topic in the crowd whom you want to survey. Then speak either positive or negative aspects of that topic with strong & confident tone. Gradually people will start divided in two groups, one in favor and one in against. ;) Even the most reserved person will give his point in 1-2 word or line. If you are in love with somebody and want to know what she feels about you, let me give you the trick. Just speak against yourself. Say you are the worst person on this planet. If she doesn't have any feelings & she is modest, she will say just 1-2 lines like "There is nothing like that. Don't think so". But if she has some feelings, she will defend you from you. She will give you thousands of concrete evidences to prove you that you are so good. To have fun, keep on opposing, get some more thought collection of the next person ;) :)

It might sounds unpractical to you then you can try it on your own. It's gonna be fun. :) You might wonder how do I know this? Well like many more subjects, I like to study human nature because its really variable & fascinating. I like to assess people & their mindsets including myself to have some more instincts of human nature. :) This is a result of that constant observation.

One interesting fact is the person can't resist himself by doing this even if he knows this fact. That's the human nature. :) So even if you have read this post, I or people like me can still apply this key on you ;) But still different people, different nature, so there can be people who don't reveal their thoughts to you by this key ;) So now you have the key to get the hidden info out so have fun!

Ash Vyas is working as an internet Marketing manager handling digital marketing activities like SEO, SMO, Linkbuilding & believe to live in the moments.
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Wednesday, 12 March 2014

Don't Search, Be The Right One!

Be the Right Person

As per my routine, I usually read during travelling from office to home & vice verse. Today a girl sat beside me & started a conversation by asking about what book I am reading.She inspired me to write this post. Let me brief you the conversation 1st so you can decide whether it is something of your interest or not. She had completed BA in English literature & pursuing Law part time. Full time doing a job in a call center. She is studying law just to get married to the right guy. The right guy means a rich guy with a bungalow, car, etc. She desires to have lavish life. There may be many boys as well who usually wish to marry a rich or an NRI girl or waiting for some miracle to happen in their life which make them rich.

Nothing wrong to desire to have a lavish life. The thing is why to get dependent on someone? Why to search some well settled & rich life partner to have luxurious life? Why not to work hard & smart. Why not to make your career or earning money focal point in your life? There are so many such whys? :(

She sounds quite innocent as she shared her personal matters with me. She even gave me her number, asked for mine as well, but I rescued myself with healthy excuse. ;) If you also share such personal information to a stranger, I strongly advice don't you risk yourself by sharing such vital information to any stranger. You shouldn't trust anyone because each stranger is not as good as Ash Vyas ;) People might misuse it.

I would also highlight her few comments. She said, "If you won't study well, you can't get a rich guy.", "I am studying just to get married with a well-settled guy.", "In Ahmedabad, there is no value of education. you can't get job with good salary. At max you can earn only 15 K/Month. So I want to be a lawyer then as you know lawyers earn a lot." ;) Don't think I didn't said anything at all. I stopped myself a lot, but couldn't resist a radical woman inside. I said you might earn your own by being a good lawyer, but couldn't change her thinking as accepted. I even asked her will you fight for truth after being a lawyer? She said I will try, but for money has to do something. :( I was like "Aw my India :(" Today itself, I just had a conversation with my colleague that if we are intelligent & capable why not to serve our India? Why not be part of its growth? And the answer she gave me made me feel :'( She extended her destination by 2 more stops even if it costs more to her, just to extend the conversation with me. It means I am a good listener even if I am not interested in having any conversation :P :D

The funny part was when she asked me what my husband is doing? To make her jealous [just for fun] I said, "He is a businessman." She asked, "Means a manager or an owner?" I, "An Owner" :D She "Wow yar. You are so lucky. We are still searching for the one" :P :D

She really left me in stat to ponder. I mean why don't people desire what is in their own hand? I mean it is difficult to expect something from someone whilst easier to do something on your own as you have control on yourself. Don't try to look out for the right person. Just be the right one. What do you think?

Tuesday, 11 March 2014

What 21st Century Women Really Want?

21st Century Woman

Today, I came across the blog post which had highlighted what a woman really want? Very interesting topic, but very fake result according to me of course. May be I am wrong. May be not. So I though let's draft a post and ask everyone, what do you think?

According to that survey, What women really want? The result is as below:

Shopping 48%
Relationship/Marriage (30%)
Health & Fitness (14%)
Childcare / Parenting (5%)

That's it. Each time I read or share this result, one reaction comes to my mind. Are you kidding me? I mean is this a result of 21st century women's desire or 12th century women desire? Where is education? Where is career? I mean come on, didn't you find at least 1% of women who desired for better education & bright career. Weird! Absurd! Unbelievable! Impossible! Sounds Fake!

There might be a few women who desire only above listed things, but in the 21st century women has been more career centric. She is much more serious about her education and studies for sure. I have worked with many ambitious girls in the corporate world. Even I have worked as a teacher. From school girl to college teenage females, all were desired to have proper education & career. I have seen girls who literally cry when they don't get a job and receive a marriage proposal. She wants to work. She wants her identity as her priority and you are asking me to believe you didn't find even 1% of girl who desired to have good studies & career.

If I talk about myself, I don't enjoy shopping much unless it is something about accompanying my parents to have some quality time with them. I work for 9-10 hrs approximately. When I am travelling I read books. When I have some free time, I usually blog, read, write educational assignments or attend my distance learning classes. If we consider any other girl she might spend 10-60% time for studies or job at least. Doesn't she?

This is 21st century. Women want to fly in the sky of the opportunities. Even in the antiquity when there were almost no opportunity for a girl there were so many women who made their name. In today's world, girls are taking risk of life to study, remember Yousafzai Malala? Girls are making their name in each and every industry. The priority has been changed from settling down with marriage & having kids, She wants to create her identity first. She loves to be independent. 21st century women independent, focused, ambitious and successful. That's I am. What about you?

And ya don't forget to leave your answer. What do you think? What 21st century women really wants?

Saturday, 8 March 2014

Women's Day - The Two Oaths Man Must Take

On this women's day - For a Man who supports the Woman

First of all, Happy Women’s Day. There must be numerous write-ups about women’s rights & liberation. I would like to talk about something which people usually overlook. About those MEN who understand the worth of women. Let’s talk with those positive men on this women’s day J

I know that you know the worth of the women, but do you say so? You admire her, but do you express it in words? Did you wish “Women’s Day’ to women in your life before you left for the office where you wished many other women the same? Um, I think in 90% cases the answer is “No”. I know this is a nuance of a man. I know you are not as expressive as a woman. You want her to understand the unspoken words of love & care and she does. She does understand you love her, care for her. But don’t you think expression of love & care is an essence of the happy life? Don’t interpret it like she is thirsty for the praise or flattering. Neah, she doesn’t. But don’t you think she deserves to know how much you love &care for her. When the food is a bit more salty or spicy, you won’t forget to comment on it. Then why not to praise her for delicious food she serves daily. Even the best thing could be eat that mistakenly cooked salty food silently by keeping her efforts in mind J

One more thing is I have seen sometimes that a man don’t raise his voice to protect a woman. There are many ugly crimes are happening around us against the woman like domestic violence, rape, eve-teasing & so on. A man has the strength to oppress or protect a woman. If a man is oppressing a woman, you must raise your voice to protect her. I know you care for her, you feel bad then why not to attempt to rescue her? If you are scared to get into some trouble, at least inform the cops if something like that is happening or you think can happen, at least anonymously.

On this woman’s day I want to urge all of you to protect her. Raise voice for her. For me every day is my day. Every day is a women’s day, but today, indirectly, it is a man’s day. Take a silent oath that you will help a lady in need as much as you can. You will use your words to admire her instead of criticize her. Today is the day to express her that she is important. J Just tell her “You made my life” or “You are the one who made my life so beautiful” and feel that glow on her face J

Hey man, I know you care then why don’t you share?

Monday, 10 February 2014

An Enthralling Dream

Relic Palace in forest

Yesterday night, I saw an amazing and enthralling dream. I saw that with a group of people I reached an aloof place. It was a giant relic of a king’s palace. It was surrounded by the dense woodland. The palace was so tall that the height of the terrace was two floors higher than the tallest trees of the thicket. I can still visualize that panorama. It was splendid. I wish I am a painter and I could canvas it.

According to a rumor that forest was haunted. The troupe of mine visited that place just to find out the concealed truth of that haunted palace and forest. After a day or two [it just passed like daily soaps write at below after two days], we got an information that our chopper cannot come to pick us to take us back to our home. All were anxious. Few were frightened. I talked with the wife of my friend that let’s call number 100 and get the help from the Police. She confronted her husband who was trying to get some way out with my suggestion. He asked her to let him try in his own way and also implied its better to not take the help of police in this matter. According to my inurement, I started thinking why to not take help of Police? I came to the conclusion, may be because we are at such [so called haunted place] and it might raise some issues on taking prior permit to visit this place or something which we didn’t had. That could be the result he was refusing to take help of police. With this thinking I slept in the dream :D

In the next day morning, we were standing on the rooftop and what we saw can you imagine? We saw the choppers in the sky of Ahmedabad police which came to rescue us. In the middle of everyone’s amazement, I was smiling and thinking inside that I was the one who called the One-Zero-Zero to take and asked for the help. I know my friend refused to call the cops, but everyone’s safety had been my first priority as always ;) And I was feeling proud as I rescued everyone and also proud on Ahmedabad police as they came in such short notice on a single call. Then I heard my parent was asking me to wake up or I will be late for the office :D I woke up with an exclamation like “Wow what a thrilling dream it was!”

The dream was outcome of writing a blog on Ahmedabad city police and then watching a Fear files episode of a haunted place in Rajasthan before I went to sleep. It was really fun, but can be scary for soft hearten people.

Sunday, 9 February 2014

Ahmedabad City Police is OnLine Duty

You might have read these banners in Ahmedabad. I always believe that someone is doing well always appreciate & encourage the one with few words of admiration. This post is to admire the efforts of Ahmedabad City Police. You might have read my previous post of Women Helpline. If not, you must read for information acquisition and spreading of commendable job, called, PoliceHeart here: http://talksfest.blogspot.com/2013/12/policeheart-initiative-of-ahmedabad.html

Ahmedabad Police seems to be conscious & zealous about their duty. The most meritorious thing is they are not helping people, but also trying to spread awareness with advanced technology like social media. They share updates of various information including Helplines, traffic rules, success stories and something which I liked the most was share of traffic rule breaking penalty list. Check the picture below:

Fine for Violation of Traffic Rules

I wish, you all will obey the traffic rules as a good citizen, but in case if you break any of rules, you can pay the fine listed above. Take self responsibility; obey the traffic rule, if you had not please pay the fine as listed above. Do not support corruption please. :)

Apart from these, there is one more helpline number 1098 which is a child helpline number. You may call on 1098 Ahmedabad police helpline when you want to rescue any child around you. For women, Police has launched two new services which I would love to bring to your attention. 1096 number to get help at time of domestic violence. One more initiative of Ahmedabad Police is called 100 reasons to call 100. We all know police helpline number 100, but you might not have information on how it can help specifically a woman. If at night time, a woman is not getting a cab or auto and/or feeling frightened than she can call the number 100 for help. The Ahmedabad police van will pick a woman and drop her to her home or safe place. One more thing to keep in mind is that van will have a lady police. So if she is not there, demand for a lady police. ;) At night, any lady can ask for a lady cop if she needs to go with the police. Prevention is better than cure.

Ahmedabad police also allows people to spend the day with them and share their experiences. I also wish to experience such day, probably :D I hope, you never stuck in any situation where you need to call any helpline number, but you must be aware of such things. You can get regular updates by liking their online pages.

If any Ahmedabad police cop is reading this post, I would like to give one suggestion that please, arrange self defense learning classes on weekend for women in Ahmedabad because prevention is always better than cure.

Wednesday, 5 February 2014

The Thrilling Travel Destination

Most Adventorous Travel Destination

Now-a-days, I have started diving in the deep ocean of English. I keep my radar on to grasp new words in English and expand my vocabulary with it. Learning anything is fun and learning English is much more fun because it is quite confusing at sometimes because same word have different meanings and there are numerous words. I think no-one can master the English language thoroughly because there are endless words. I know I am imperfect, but as per my inurement, I have begun my efforts to be closer to perfect which is going to lead me to be good, at least. My dear friend is helping me out by giving me homework in which she gives me a few words and ask me to write a blog on that. Yeah ! She knows that I am lethargic, but good disciple so I will always complete my homework.

Today's topic is to write about my dream destination using few words. Dream Destination, umm, I haven't dreamed to traverse to some specific destination. You know, I dream about my work, studies, career and all that, but that doesn't mean I don't enjoy traveling. I would love to go on a voyage. According to the words she has given, The trip should be thrilled enough to have goosebumps. I have already been on such excursion. I have experienced the thrill by ducking myself in the sea during water-sports in Goa. I have seen the panoramic view of forest of flames by watching the back-wood from the cliff & walking alone in the woodland at night at Polo Forest. So I have already been at thrilling travel destinations. I have experienced the nuance of nature. I am sort of person who likes everything so I will enjoy everything and every place because each nuance of nature is vibrant, magnificent, spellbound and so on. Adjectives will be finished , but the adoration of nature will not.

Still If I amalgamate all the words given by my friend then the first spot come into my mind is Hell :D. Yeah the Inferno. As per lore, I have heard that person get fried in evaporated oil and many similar stuff happens there. So if it is matter of thrill, I don't think anything can be more thrilling than that :) Well, I am person who like peace so for sure if it is about long stay, I prefer heaven only, but just for expedition why not do something unique? Let's go to inferno, experience something uncommon, get thrilled and come back home to write new blog on my experience at Inferno. ;) So would you like to be my pal for the expedition to Hell??